Make today great! Do it for yourself, your friends, and your family. It’s so easy to get caught up in a negative mindset and pulled into the minutiae of what is going wrong in our lives, or at the job, or in the world. Instead of focusing on the plight of all that is wrong, focus on what is going right! Live your life in the ‘Positivity Zone’.
Eckhart Tolle said “Every ego wants to be special. If it can’t be special by being superior to others, it’s also quite happy with being especially miserable”.
Some people will try to pull you into their way of thinking, incessantly focusing on the negative. They may try to diminish you, your influence and impact. Stay the course. Here’s my solution. Choose to grow. Choose to inspire change. Expect those around you to be the best version of themselves.
Looking for a strategy to combat the chronic complainers? Consider the the “5-minute complaint rule” when talking to the “negative nellies”. Set a timer and ask them if they are interested in changing the subject to talk about what we can do to make it better. Even five minutes of complaints is generous. Focus on discovering solutions and resolve to grow. For me, the rule has been adjusted over the years to two minutes. Less really is more. Time spent complaining is time you could spend transforming and growing.
Remember what Eckhart Tolle said? “Every ego wants to be special. If it can’t be special by being superior to others, it’s also quite happy with being especially miserable”. We must be vigilant about who and what we let into our lives lest we become it. You will quickly find that some people will appreciate that approach. Other people will not because they don’t intend to make anything better. They thrive in the “negativity zone”. Yes, that’s where their “best life” is.
We all know them, right? Minimize your interaction with those people. They aren’t ‘in it to win it’, encouraging others to change the world, being their best version of self, or planning to embrace the Carpe Diem mindset anytime soon.
We only have one choice to make. Today will either be good or it will be great! There are no other options. Live in the ‘Positivity Zone’ and don’t let anyone change the plan!
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